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He works in chinuch (Jewish education) and lives in the Heights.One Saturday night he is on a first date that came from a setup.She admits it was awkward, but then explained that confronting that awkwardness produced a more comfortable situation.I think in our community those conversations would be awkward as well.In some circles when two people are set up, go on the required two dates, and then one of them feels this relationship is not going to work out, they don’t even communicate this information with each other directly.Instead, the proper protocol is to go back to the person who set them up and tell that person who then conveys the message.The theme repeated everywhere in novels and movies is that “I am in love and my love is beyond my control”; “I fell in love”; it was as though someone pushed me off a cliff and it was all accidental and unintentional.The Jewish approach warns us not to “love in spite of yourself”, but to love “because of yourself”. Enter into the love relationship with your eyes open, not with your eyes closed.

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Nor is romantic love an end in itself, so that it cannot and should not be accepted in defense of any type of behavior in any male-female relationship which is less than a properly controlled one.

Let’s talk about dating as it is practiced in some segments of our community, most notably among the Orthodox. Do The Dating Rules allow her to message him “Hey, really nice meeting you, want to grab drinks this week? In the close to two decades I spent working at Yeshiva University, and in my current practice as a Life Coach, I meet many young women and men who are bothered by The Dating Rules. But does our Ad Gal really want to date a guy who was so turned off by her making the first move? Social norms do not just change because it makes sense for them to.

#Upper West Side #Washington Heights #Queens College #Stern. But they certainly will not change if we don’t start talking about them at our Shabbat tables and on our newsfeeds.

Romantic love is not always related to real love, especially when it ignores the true personalities and mutual interest of those involved.

To be ruled by one’s emotions and feelings, uncontrolled and undirected by logic, values and clear thinking, with no clear sense of goals and responsibility, is to ignore the only factors which can establish a firm foundation for a permanent and mature life-long relationship.

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