Time out dating online
I started feeling exhausted at just the of another date filled with small talk and attempts to put my best foot forward. And while it might not be the right choice for you, here are a few things I learned from this "break" that became a full-on renouncement of dating apps:1.
Meeting people IRL is totally possible If you had told me this a year ago, I probably would've responded, "Yeah, is possible—but it sure ain't likely." In a world where two potential matches could be in the same bar and not notice each other because they're both swiping around on Tinder, it feels like online is the only place to meet someone.
Looking for love can backfire When I met my partner, I was in the opposite mindset from when I was online dating.
I was just looking for fun and maybe a hookup, not a relationship.
Between the thrill of receiving a notification and the game-like aspect of swiping, I was no longer even making the conscious choice to engage in it.
I felt like a lab rat mindlessly chasing its next pellet of food.3.
Online dating is addictive Right after I decided to stop going on OKCupid, I actually had to stop my hands from typing the "o" into my browser when I wanted a work break (OK I slipped up a few times, I'll admit it).
It's actually ended up lasting a year because after seven months, I met someone—and it was IRL.
The biggest reason I had for deleting my dating apps was just an insufficient return on investment.
During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.
I hadn't even noticed these feelings before because they were overridden by the hope that I'd get that rare good message.